A Letter To The Grandchild I Never Got To Hold. (I Lost My Unborn Grandchild)
Posted: Friday, April 24, 2009
by Gary W. Halsey Sr.
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Note: My Daughter in Law has been pregnant for the last 8 weeks, she informed my wife and I a couple of weeks ago, both her and my son, and we were estatic!! She went in for her 8 week ultra sound yesterday, and was told that the child had not developed a heart, and that she had to undergo surgery, to have the child removed as it was not yet developed, but was dead. She underwent surgery at 5pm Thursday, April 23, to have it removed....my prayers are with her and my son, my wife is in California at this very moment, to be there when Jennifer gets out of the hospital, and my wife will take care of our grandsons until Jennifer is back on her feet....Here is my letter to my unborn grandchild, Rest in Peace Little One.
Although I will never get to meet you, or hold you, to give you butterfly kisses, or know if you would have been a girl or boy, I want to tell you that I love you, and will miss you. Your mom is so sad that she lost you after eight weeks of pregnancy, but I think that God has other BIG plans for you. It was hard for me to deal with you not having a developed heart, and I know that as I write to you! Your mom is going through the surgery at this very moment to have you removed from the comfort of her womb. Rest in peace little one. I will miss the times that we would have had together, the laughs, the tickles, and the great big hugs. I'm going to miss that. Your brothers will also miss you, and your dad as well.
We don't really know why these things happen, but they do, and all I can say is that it must be a part of God's infinate plan. He could bring you back as another Elvis Presley, a great President, (maybe even the 1st female President) :) That would be great. Maybe he will bring you back as a preacher for his cause. Perhaps to help people. I'm sure his plan is great. I just wanted to tell you that grandpa loves you, whatever you may have been, girl or boy, it wouldn't have mattered......I am still going to miss the butterfly kisses, and the great big hugs.
In closing, I just want you to know, that I will never forget you, even though I never knew you, I will never forget you, and how happy I was when I heard that you were coming into my world...I will miss you little one, but one day I shall know you, have no fear, God is near......Love, Your Grandpa, Grandpa Halsey.
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Top-level comments on this article: (5 total)Gary, I'm crying with you and for your family's loss. May God bring healing, strength, and courage to your son and daughter in law. There are no words, dear friend, only know that I love you and for that, love your family as well. I will continue to pray. Thank you for sharing this beautiful letter. Your friend and sister in Christ, TeresaHeavenly Father, I ask that this family would feel your loving arms around them. Restore peace and joy within their hearts and comfort them. That they would rest in the knowledge that this little one is with you. It's hard not to ask "why", but knowing you know best, it just might be a blessing in disguise. May Grace and peace surround them in such a way that they would feel as if they are floating until they are able to stand and walk once again. I love you Lord and I thank you for your goodness even though now it doesn't look so good from this side of heaven. In Jesus name I pray. Amen.Teresa, what a wonderful prayer for my family, and may the Almighty bless and reward you for your wonderful kindness. You are truly my sister in Christ, and I know that my daughter in law and son really appreciate this...I forwarded it on to them., They send their kindest thanks to you and yours for your comfort and words. Thank you so much for being there for us in Jesus name.....Your friend always, and fan....Gary.....it's prayers like this that get us through the tough times...you are truly blessed.
Gary, my prayers have been with your family since learning of your loss. A beautiful eulogy for your grandchild. She/He always mattered to God but you've made him/her not only matter to us but given her/him, life!
God has never made a mistake and never will. I have five angels waiting for me to be their mother one day.
Hugging all of you with Love,
AvisAvis my friend, this is indeed a tough time, but with these kinds of blessings, I know we will heal in time, God, in his infinate wisdom has a way of doing that and God bless you for thinking of us. It's your thoughtfulness that will get us through this, with God's help of course.....Thank you so much for your kindness...I will pass this along to my daughter in law and son, so that they may know that they are being thought of in this time of sorrow, thanks to you and Teresa, and your heartfelt thoughfulness....your friend and fan.....Gary ....blessings to you and your family.
Gary, I just read this after seeing your tweeter post. I am saddened to hear of your loss. I can only imagine how it must be like for your family.I don’t know if God has other BIG (earthly) plans those who pass on, but I do know He has BIG (earthly) plans for those who are touched by the ones who pass on. There is a message/lesson to be learned from your grandchild even if we may not yet know exactly what it is. Your grandchild is already “a preacher for His cause" and may already be "helping people” just by you sharing his/her with others. He is already making me "think"...May His love and peace comfort you and your family in this time of sadness!Thank you Christine, for some reason, these things happen, and who knows why, but Jennifer and Jason, my son, and daughter in law, have two beautiful children, and she was graced both of them with Chase and Kyle, my grandsons. I spoke with Jennifer this morning, and she is doing well after the procedure to have the fetus removed, and she said that she was "okay". Her and I are really close, and I sense her emotions to this whole ordeal, and told her I am here for her if she needs to talk, or if she just needs a shoulder. I won't pretend that I know how a woman feels when these things happen, because I couldn't even begin to imagine, but what I do know, is that I can be there to support both of them...and yes....I will. Thank you for your kind words of comfort and support, I adore you for it...I will send your message on to them...I know they will be thankful for your kind words. They are planning to try again, and are hoping for a girl!! God help them!!! I'm just kidding.....you know me, I have to joke, I guess that is my way of copeing with the situation.....Your fan, and pal, Gary......Blessings to you and yours.
Gary, this is so sad and your family has my prayers.In my job I have had to pick up still-born babies and bring them back to the funeral home, and my thoughts at the time have always been, "This child left its mother's womb and went straight into the arms of God." Isn't that a wonderful thought? Can you imagine what it is like for this child, to know nothing of this corrupt world, only the magnificence of the presence of God? Keep that thought with you, Gary, and I know it will give you comfort.God bless.Thank you so much David for you comfort and thoughts, as you know, whether it be my grandchild, or someone else's this has a very strong affect on me, and it is difficult sometimes to see past the storm, but with words like the ones you have just written, I can peek through the clouds of that storm, and see the light of a beautiful morning's sun. Thanks so much for being who you are, and that is a very caring individual, I, and my family are lucky to have your words of wisdom....I don't know how you do it, but God bless the fact that you do. Your fan, and friend ...... Gary.
The death of a child is one of the worst experiences one can endure. It makes no difference if the baby is yet to be born.You are a sensitive soul, Gary Halsey, and God bless you for it. Give my condolences to Mom and family. This little one is indeed with our Lord.Thank you so much Ken, you are a great friend, and I really appreciate your taking the time to communicate... I wish we were neighbors, that would be great...the BBQ would be on me....hope you like ribs. Your pal, and fan.....GaryIf the BBQ is on you then the sauce will be on me!
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