Gary W. Halsey Sr.

The Death Of My Hero, My Father



Posted: Tuesday, March 10, 2009

by Gary W. Halsey Sr.
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It was the winter of 1963, when we had received word that my dad was missing. He was to report to the Seal Beach airport along with the Seal Beach Airport Manager who was flying with him at the time. My father used to commute from Seal Beach Calif, where he was working for the government as an Electronic Engineer on an oilrig off the coast of California. He would fly his Cessna from Seal Beach Calif., to Logan Utah, where we lived, to be with his family on the weekends until the end of his contract. I was in high school at the time, going to North Cache High School. The last time he radioed in on that day that he left, (On a Sunday), was when he was flying over Lake Mead Nevada. A residence that lived near Lake Mead Nevada, had reported seeing a ball of fire plummeting out of the sky, right over the lake, as it disappeared out of sight "somewhere in the lake". Our family was devastated, but never gave up hope that he would be found. There were search parties formed, and local volunteers headed up the search. My brother at the time, was the oldest of us siblings, and was in the Navy at the time, and he was able to come home to help on the search parties.

Larry, my brother, was granted a month's leave to be on the search party. There were several eyewitnesses that had seen the "ball of fire" coming out of the sky, some say that the plane went into the lake; others claimed that the plane must have crashed into the mountainside, somewhere around the lake. The searchers were able to determine that no wreckage had been spotted by air, and foot searches were hard to do in that area, because of how rugged the terrain. Some of those places around the lake were quite dense with undergrowth, and forestry. Divers were sent down into the lake to search for the plane, where some witnesses had speculated that it might have plunged into the lake. Some say that some parts of Lake Mead were considered "bottomless", which only meant that it was too deep for divers to go down, but they tried. The search had lasted for about 2 to 3 weeks, and they (my dad, and the manager of Seal Beach Airport) were presumed to have perished in the plane crash/accident. Prior to their departure from Logan Utah, they were told that a severe storm was heading towards their flight path, and the airport manager told them that they should probably wait it out. Well, both men decided to see if they could go around it, because they both had to report to work that Monday, and decided to "chance it". If only they had heeded the weather report, they would have both been alive today, or would they?

My mom was in a state of denial of my dad's disapperence, as we all were. My dad was her world, her love, and the father of her children. Dad was a veteran pilot since he was honorably discharged out of the Navy. and he was a great pilot. My mom had her license as well, and I was taking ground school and had some flight time when we heard the news of my dad missing. Mom remained optimistic as to his being found. She needed some type of closure. It wasn't until 11 years later, that they had found my dad, and the Seal Beach Airport Manager's plane. It was found by a hunter while deer hunting, that he saw something that looked like fabric, which was clinging to some trees and undergrowth around the area. There seemed to be a tunnel like configuration, going through this thick underbrush, and he followed it in. There, about three hundred yards into the underbrush, was my dads plane. When the hunter approached the plane, he observed two skeletal remains of the passengers who was later identified to be my father and his friend. The hunter had found a wallet in the plane that had my dad's license in it, along with four $100.00 bills. The front of the plane had been severely burned, which later it was determined to be a fuel line. The rest of the plane was pretty much intact, for the exception of the wings and tail being severely mangled from the impact. It wasn't the weather that killed them; it was a faulty fuel line. By this time, I had served in the Navy over in Vietnam, trying to help support my mom, I was sending her money, as well as savings bonds to help raise my younger sister.

I was living with my now ex-wife in San Jose, working at Westinghouse, when my mom called me, to let me know that they had found my dad. I really took his death hard, he was not only my dad, but also my best friend, and pal. He took me everywhere when I was growing up. We would go fishing, hunting, camping, and he was always my hero. When I had learned that they had found his body, I thought about what my mom had gone through, the hardships, the financial burden of us kids, she couldn't collect any kind of insurance because my dad was not declared legally dead, until the statutes of limitations run out, which was 7 years later, and it was four years after that when they had found his remains. When the Department of the Navy found out about his death, we received a certificate of recognition of my dad's years of service, signed by President Johnson. Of course, it could never replace my dad, but it was some kind of closure for all of us. The hardships for my mom were unbearable. She couldn't sell anything like cars, trucks, land, nothing, because it was all in my dad's name, at least until he was declared legally dead. I felt so sorry for her. She really had it rough, we all did.

That's been years ago, but you never forget. Life goes on, but you will always remember the ones you love. That is the reason why I never hesitate to tell my family, my children, my grandchildren, everyone on both sides of the family, that I love them with all of my heart. The loss of my father was very painful, and he could never be replaced. Many years later, loneliness hit my mom hard, especially when all of us kids were on our own. She finally found a wonderful guy that she spent her time with, and he was a Navy man as well, but she lost him a couple of years later to a massive congestive heart attack. She never re-married after that. She has since passed away. And her pain is over. God rest their souls. I miss them dearly and I will never forget them ever.

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Gary W. Halsey Sr. has been writing since he was in Junior High School. He is a retired professional in the Electronics field. He has also appeared in a few movies as a stuntman, and also a singer/actor. His favorite things to write about are Entertainment, Poetry, and Current Events. What inspires him to write about poetry is everyday life experiences that we can all relate to. His poetry is a intriguing collection of original poetry which provides the reader a glimpse into the author's life experiences and views pertaining to a myriad of issues most of us encounter throughout our lives. Gary W. Halsey Sr.'s poetry and articles reflects a creative and insightful mind. For those who perhaps share and relate to these traits of his work, could be found entertaining and thought provoking. Mr. Halsey was born in Frankfort Indiana, in 1946, now retired.  
 
 
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Top-level comments on this article: (4 total)
» left by Ken McCreless
3 years 71 days ago.
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Gary, how horrible. It never ceases to amaze me how something that happened so long ago can feel so fresh. I'm sure your dad's final thoughts were of you and your family, your mom. My heart goes out to you and yours.
» left by Gary W. Halsey Sr. 3 years 71 days ago.
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Thank you so much Ken for your kind and wonderful thoughts and comments. You know what they mean to me. I am sorry I have not been on for awhile, but I was preparing for a 60th anniversary celebration  as a DJ. So I'm back now, and will get to attending to the business of what I like to do best, and that is to read yours, and my favorite authors work....I missed it for four days!!!!!! Thanks again buddy for your great comments,and yes, it was a difficult time. I love them both dearly. Your friend, fan, and friend in pen..........Gary
» left by Nancy Daniels
3 years 69 days ago.
 
Gary,
 
Oh my goodness.  This brought tears to my eyes...not knowing for all those years means carrying a burden of sadness and questions.   Life goes on, certainly, but the pain and the hardship are ever there.  You presented this beautifully.  Because of what I 'read' in you, I can see that you were blessed to have had two wonderful parents. 
 
Thank you for sharing this (and for sending me to this one as well),
 
Nancy
 
» left by Gary W. Halsey Sr. 3 years 69 days ago.
Thank you Nancy for your wonderful comments, although this happened so many years ago, just because of the fact that I wrote about it is like it happened yesterday. I miss my folks so much, as they were loving parents, and God fearing as well.....they are missed by all who knew them.....Thank you so much for your support, and your taking the time to comment, you will be on my next list as I do enjoy your work...(I will be updating it real soon) Thanks, your fan, and friend in pen,........Gary
» left by David Pekrul
3 years 66 days ago.
70 fans.
Wow, what a story! In my job I hear so many different stories of how family has lost a loved one. Yours is truly touching and I know it must have been a very hard time in your life. But God is good, and reading all the articles you have written, I know He has been your strength and comfort. So many people begin to hate God in these circumstances, but I get the impression that God has been your tower of comfort.
I think back at how my Dad died. Such different circumstances. My dad died of a very rare disease which literally freezes one in their bodies, while their mind is still very active. He was so alert, but was unable to walk, talk or even move his head. It was such a horrible thing to visit him in the nursing home. We would hold his hand while we talked to him and would get the occasional hand squeeze, just to let us know that he was listening and understood what was going on.
Death of a loved one is never easy, but God will always give us strength and comfort.
God bless you, Gary, and thanks for this great article.
» left by Gary W. Halsey Sr. 3 years 66 days ago.
51 fans.
You are so right David, God is my strength, and will always be. My soul was given to him the minute I was born, by my mother...I could not imagine seeing a loved one, encased in a body that did not function, and being fully alert and knew what was going on around him, and unable to move...that would crush me, as I sure it did you!!! God Rest both of their souls.....thanks for reading this, I think of him, and my mom all of the time....They were also my strength...I will always remember them. Thank you David so much for your comments of comfort...you my friend are a strength as well....with you wonderful words of poetry.....God Bless .....You fan, and friend in pen......Gary.
» left by Anonymous 3 years 66 days ago.
Thanks for sharing your life--many of us can relate, I certainly can. Your love of your folks lives on through your words to your kids and grandkids!
» left by Gary W. Halsey Sr. 3 years 66 days ago.
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Well thank you so much Anonymous! I really appreciate your kind and wonderful comments. And if you can relate this to me, you have my blessings, as this was very hard to take as a kid at the time. (Those were the days when  you were still a kid at 18)! I know that you can never forget, you learn to adapt, but never forget. Thanks again for taking the time to read it, and  to comment as well....You friend in pen, and pal.....Gary
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