Women Are From Mars, Men are From Who Knows Where?
Posted: Tuesday, March 03, 2009
by Gary W. Halsey Sr.
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This has been an age old debate with men and women alike for generati
ons. I cannot understand for the life of me, why we are so different. Whether it be what we think about, sex, views on different subjects, humor, views on shopping logic, thoughts on coupons, savings, politics, religion. The fact is, we are so, and I mean, SO different!! I was in need of tires for my truck, and my wonderful wife, (I love her dearly) says "Well, we'll put it in the budget" and maybe we can get a couple of tires for the front next week. Next week? Do the tires know that they need to last another week, so what if the cords are showing, they must last for another week. Well, consequently, one of my front tires blew up on Friday of last week, not when the shops were open, but at 8:00 pm at night, on a highway out in the middle of no where, and I didn't have a spare, because that had to wait for at least another month to be put into the budget. Where is the logic here?
Is it just me, or is that weird? It's not like she doesn't care, because she really does, but in her mind, that was the logical thing to do. Well, we still ended up getting two new tires for my truck the next day!! I had to. And at the time, my wife says, "Well, theres nothing else to do but to buy new tires because you have to get to work, also, that more or less takes care of the spare tire issue, you can use the good tire on the front for your spare", so at that point, in her mind, we killed two birds with one stone.....I guess, but I was still stuck out in the middle of no where, and was all over the road when the tire blew. It is like her car, she needs new breaks, lifetime warranty on front disc pads, and they only cost about 40.00, that is cheap enough for a LIFETIME WARRANTY, don't you think? Well, she says that we can put that in the budget for next week. I can predict what is going to happen, her brakes are bad enough, that they will ruin the rotors, and what would cost us 40 bucks now, will cost us about 200.00 next week. The rotors will get all scratched up, although we can have them turned, it will still be more expensive. But try explaining that to my bunny. She knows it to be true, but insist on putting it in the proverbial budget, knowing that the risk is there, not to mention the safety factor.
We are so different, yet we are the same. Now she handles paying the bills, so who am I to argue? Perhaps the answer to that is to get involved in planning the budget!! She does an excellent job at paying the bills, but her priorities are so different than mine. I wonder how we can resolve this? When I back up, and look at the whole picture, we are only different in a few areas. I married her for a reason, and what reason is that? I love her of course, but is it the differences that we fell in love with also..? Perhaps.
I love my wife, but I just don't get it. We do not have the same sense of humor, yet I make her laugh. Things that I find that are hilarious, she just gives me these blank looks. It makes me laugh even more...what is that? Her view on sex is great, no problems there, we are compatible. She has a great and caring heart. She loves people, check, she loves to go to the movies...check, she loves our time together...check...But I just don't understand her thought process sometimes, and how she comes to the conclusions that she comes too. Hum.....maybe it's me? I asked her what she thought, and likewise, she doesn't understand my logic either...isn't that weird? Why is it so difficult to acknowledge each others differences...I think the bottom line is, we are two different people, with two different points of view, and because we are opposite, well there is the answer, opposites attract..Wow, I think I just answered my own questions. I love my wife, her ways, her habits, and we are a match. So I guess this make us both, from the planet earth.
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Top-level comments on this article: (10 total)Tell me about it! Great job, Gary. Bold move, though!!Ken, thanks for stopping by and reading my rather gutsy article...it all ends up okay at the end though, I do love my wife very dearly, I just don't understand the logic? lol, I guess that is what makes the world go around. But she is my soul mate, and I respect her opinion...well....maybe not all of them....but I will listen....hahahahahaha here I go again...see, you did that on purpose, hahahahhahaha Thanks for stopping by, and also for commenting, I always look forward to your comments....your pal and fan in pen........Gary...
Oh, you're a brave man, coming up with this one! But it's very true; we think so differently than our wives, but what would we do without them? I know that I am the head of the family, and my wife expects me to make all the major decisions, yet when she is out of the house for the evening, at a meeting, with her friends, babysitting our granddaughters, I feel so alone. I really need that girl, even if it is just to be in the same room with me. It's weird, isn't it, but I guess that's what marriage is all about.David, you are so right, I don't know what I would ever do without my love....she is my tower of strength, and I hers....with 27 years together, we put up with each other pretty well. But your right, I do miss her when she is not around...you obviously know the feeling......Thanks for your comments, they always mean allot to me, and I really appreciate it...Glad you enjoy the read, I enjoyed writing it!!! Your pal, and fan, and friend in pen.........Gary
Very interesting article, Gary, and the subject matter of how men and women are wired differently has always been very interesting and one which most would love to debate. The article also hit upon another interesting subject of how opposites can attract. What comes to this reader's mind is that God made man and woman so very different in order to keep life challenging until we reach different life cycles at which time, perhaps, because of hormonal leveling we become more similar. There are times when I am discussing similar issues with one of my friends and always come away thinking that she or he is making excuses when excuses are not valid. You, however, have made some very valid points and maybe need to approach the subject of replacing tires and/or something major long before it becomes a safety issue and if a safety issue is suspected, never but never take a vehicle too far away from home base. Those are my candid thoughts on the matter and loved the thought-provoking article. SuzySuzy!!! Great to see you on this site...I was shocked to see that SearchWarp has gained another excellent writer!!! Are you gonna write articles or poems? Tell me, Tell me do!! I'm glad you liked my article...and it was lots of fun to write, only to realize that opposites do attract. Every once in awhile, I love to write about the opposite sex...(Maybe I should be the male version of "Dear Abby"), I could give a guys, (this guys) point of view of everyday day wonders that a gal may have from a mans point of view.....Nawwwww, never mind, I will leave that up to the experts, besides you know me, I would definately get myself in trouble. I will never ever try to second guess a woman, been there, done that...don't wanna do it anymore. LOL It's so wonderful to see you on this site, and I want to welcome you to a wonderful site such as SearchWarp!!! It's a great site, with tons of great talented people!! You pal, and friend in pen, and I will join your fan club if you should decide to stay and write on SearchWarp....I know you have a lot of Irons in the Fire so to speak.....Thanks for the comments, and thank you for reading the articles...your pal.....Gary P.S. Did you make a profile, you can go to the control panel, and make a profile, add pic, and do a bio then folks will start joining your fan club once you are on board.....hurry hurry hurry!!!!!!
Interesting article and a hot topic for debate, Gary. I am more on the side of a society/social conditioning tries so hard to make men and women seem so different rather than biology/God made us to think so very differently. Society does this to keep us distracted (battle of the sexes) and divided because we're easier to control, manipulate and rule divided (harder if the sexs were united).But of course, I am too much of a tomboy to a point that when I was still young, single and dating one or two guys asked me if I am really a woman? LOL! I was wearing a skirt and I can be as feminine and as straight as they come (no offense meant). But I also fix my own tires, do my own plumbing, love fiddling with electrical gadgets (many shock therapies there), like my TV screen really big, love fast cars, hate shopping, have poor sense of direction yet don’t like asking for directions, tend to look more at the bigger picture, bad with remembering details especially anniversaries, think here and now, prefer hanging out with the boys and I am very comfortable initiating sex with my guy (ooops!). How's that for a woman from Mars? May be I am from Hades… LOL!I loved the article. Your love for your wife is evident. Like I have said before, lucky you two!Wow Christine, you? A Tomboy? You sure don't look like one. But hey, it's cool, my sister in law is a definate tomboy, she is into sports, loves to play baseball, and is very athletic, and very intelligent, like you. I really appreciate your comments, and I do tend to agree with you that it is a society thing that makes us so different. Although I must admit, that I find that in itself very "attractive". I don't know why, I just do. And I want to write more about the opposite sex, from my point of view, as I actually find that we are very much the same, in allot of ways, yet we think very differently and that is what intrigues me. As usual, I am alway glad to hear from you, and you do give allot of yourself to SearchWarp, and I am glad someone like you is out there helping out the singles. I wouldn't even know where to begin in this day and age!!! lol. Reckon I'm to old. But he...I can give my point of view huh? Thanks again for commenting, and as always, your fan, and friend in pen......Gary.
Hey there Bubba, good article and it is making me think of my own situation of which you are aware of. Yes, Gary has guts, and for the other readers, if you knew him as long as I have and have seen some of the stunts over the years, you'd be surprised that he is still alive. We do love him and are glad that we have protected him over the years. It is very true as to how we are the same yet so different. You and I go back a long wasy ( we won't mention the years ) and we know each other so well. I didn't think the tire would last the week and that you guys were pushing your luck but in the long run it paid of because now you have 2 new tires and once again back on the road. As far as her brakes, your probably right ( males point of view ) because I see it as a safety issue not a cost issue and what could happen if the brakes go out on you guys. I worry about both of you a lot and would never forgive myself if something happened to either one of you because of a simple brake job that I could get done for you. Tell my sister they are going to be done this weekend ( Sunday ) Anyway, as always, it was a pleasure reading your article.Thanks John, I love Christine dearly, and I am with you, but Sunday no can do...I have a gig, and so do you!!! hahahahaha John always helps bring some life to my business and we work well together as DJ's...my wife is going to, and its going to be fun.....(I think)lol....Thanks again John, Love you man, and thanks for commenting, I couldn't resist writing about logic....hahahahaha Your brother in pen.....and in real life......Gary!!
Hi Gary.Great article. But I really think that where you might get into trouble is in your reply to Christine's comment: "But hey, it's cool, my sister in law is a definate tomboy, she is into sports, loves to play baseball, and is very athletic, and very intelligent, like you." It's the last little bit about intelligence to which I am referring. What? Regular women aren't intelligent? :) Oops! But I know what you meant.Enjoyed this,DianneDianne, To me, all women are intelligent. The are thinkers, the think before the say and do, unlike how I just worded that in my response to Christines note, but I'm sure she knows me well enough to know what I meant....(whisper....hopefully)!! We are all intelligent, there, that ought to make us all equal....am I digging deeper, okay....I'll shut up....hahahahahahha, thank you for your kind response, and for reading my article.....your fan and friend in pen........Gary
Hello Gary,
Loved the article! I recall a discussion once about what was being term a 'mixed marriage' - a marriage between people of different races. The person hosting the radio said - "look, in the end, the ultimate mixed marriage is one we never comment on: it's between a man and a woman." I'm probably not doing that insight justice but it made me smile at the time because the panel of speakers shared their expertise on possible conflicts between two ethnic or racial groups and so on. Really they were talking about the potential for harmony or conflict between all people. I do think that we are socialised to think of ourselves as more different from each other than we are. Women define our feminitiy by the extent to which we differ from men. Yet if a feminine woman is a caring, humourous, intelligent and beautiful person - why can't a man aspire to those qualities too? I'm sure you do, Gary and I'm certain that you have them.
I find that there are as many differences between me and my women friends as there are between me and the men I love. Hey - let's clarify that last statement: I mean my friends, brothers and my uncles. For me though the one huuuuuuge difference between the men and women in my life is that the women (99.9%) like the detailed version of the story, while the men - including my son - will look a bit troubled, and my son has been known to ask whether (a) there's a point to the narrative and (b) whether we'll get there in his lifetime. cheeky possum. My late husband, Sotiris, used to actually say "could we have the Ladybird version of this one?" Brave man but gorgeous. Ladybird books collapse topics to 15 pages - and we used to read them to the children.
One last totally unrelated comment. It's raining in Melbourne. How wonderful.
Hello Jeannette, thank you for reading this article, it was a fun write, and I do agree with your comments, by the way, thank you also for the comments. And I do agree with the differences between your women friends as well as your men friends, I think that is very true. I really think that bottom line is, we are not really all that different, but I still think that we think differently. It's a man thing.hahahahhaha, j/k. Enjoyed your comments, and I'm glad that it is raining there, that is great news....Again, thank you for commenting....your friend in pen, Gary.
Hello Gary,A nice write up. Now I know why you are in the hall of fame list of writers. The title of the article truly evokes curiosity to read the whole article.Being a woman, I do agree with you that man and woman are two different individual with totaly different view points and logic. Yet, I think God made us that way to compliment each other. Reading through the article brought smile to my face. Certainly I will ask my husband to read this. He will become your fan. HahahahaNo matter how different each of us may be but the fact remains that Adam could not have liveed without Eve and viseversa. This the wonderful part of every marriage. Enjoying each other's company without trying to chang the other is the key to happiness I think.:)You are a great and experienced writer and I dare not make more comments, but overall I enjoyed reading your article and I wish both you and your wife a wonderful, rich and blessed time together.regards,SwapnaWell Thank you Swapna, you are so very kind, and I really appreciate your comments on this article. I do enjoy entertaining the thoughts of our differences, and they truly do accent each other. That is why man and woman (Adam and Eve) were put together....Thanks again for your kind remarks, and I hope to see your work. Your friend in pen, ........Gary
Gary,Great, great article. It is wonderful to read good love stories. There is too much angst in the world and I agree with Swapna. It deals with the complementing of each other. Men do not think like women and for that I am grateful. (Although as the bill payer, I would have used a credit card to fix those tires -- better to be broke and in debt than dead.)Thank you for sharing this one,NancyNancy, it is great to hear from you, and I totally agree with your wonderful comments, and I agree that men and women do NOT think alike. that I believe is part of the attraction. I really appreciate your comments as well as your support, and am really glad you read it!!!! Your friend in fan and friend in pen.......Gary. If you get a chance, you may want to read my "Death Of My Hero, My Dad", its a pretty interesting article, and its true!!! Thanks again for your support.
Gary a little humor and then I'' duck, When man was in the garden hanging out with the guys and they were debating going the ball game, fishing or just hanging out? God came along, another male figure and said look, man needs a partner. I'll put you to sleep and create one for you. When man woke from his slumber he was a little lighter but next to him was this beautiful person. God said together you will go forth and multiply. Then man asked God but what is her name and God said, Woe Man. Just then the woman woke up and jumped up and said God, you got that wrong, its pronounced Woman and then she turned to her partner and said, can you bring the chariot around we have shopping to do. Ok gals just kidding. See Gary no humor at all so I will sign off anonymous and leave everyone wondering.Dear Anonymous, hahahahahahahhahaha I like the ducking out part...hahshahahaha, and this is at least a little true....did I write that out loud? That was funny. See I am not the only one getting in trouble here!!!! Thanks for joining me!!! hahahahahhaa great comment!! thanks for taking the time to read and add some great humor to this....Your friend in pen......Gary.Ok Gary for you only, its me Robert.Thanks Robert, I am glad to find it was one of my favorite writers...hahahahaha, you do have a wonderful sense of humor, and I am so appreciative that you commented. I am honored. I hope you get a chance to read "The Death Of A Hero, My Dad". I think you will find it interesting. I would assume that because of our age, we both know who Bull Halsey was in WW II, and my dad more or less followed his footsteps in the Navy.....We are of that clan, William "Bull" Halsey being my 3rd cousin. My dad is missed by all who knew him. Thanks again for your wonderful comments.....Gary, actually I have and it was a wonderful article. I don' t respond to all I read most of yours. I think you know I think highly of your work and you as well. That picture on the site says it all. You are growing each day. One of my hero's Bull Halsey a man of honor, integrity and fierce loyalty to his nation and that isn't just for the sake of patronizing you. I am a history buff on war and great leaders and he is definitely up there. A man of responsibility he passed off none that was handed to him. Now all of these men of a different era and breed. God, values and character at their core. How sad it is we find few to none with a pair these days. My sincere best wishes as always, Robert. I'll bet my name came to mind for many on this site?Well thank you for the comments on "Bull" Halsey Robert, he was a legend for sure, and that is why I joined the Navy, it runs in the family....your right about folks nowadays "having a pair", I agree wholeheartedly!!! Thanks again Robert, you are one of my favorite writers here.....take care my friend.
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